Last week, I found myself at a friend’s birthday party, surrounded by the excited chatter of her college-bound daughter and friends. Their mix of anticipation and anxiety about moving to a new town without their usual support system struck a chord. It took me right back to my own life transitions - not just college, but every major leap I’ve taken! Remember that feeling? The butterflies in your stomach when you started a new job, became a mother, or watched your last child leave the nest? Each of these moments forced me to rebuild my social circle. When I started my chiropractic practice, I found a connection with fellow women healthcare practitioners. The transition to motherhood pushed me to meet new moms sharing my experience. When the transition was a difficult one, like when I was recovering from mold illness and unable to go out much, I recreated my social circle by joining online communities and taking online classes. The conversation with these young women got me thinking about how cultivating a strong support network is like tending a resilience garden. It’s not just about having people around; it’s about nurturing relationships that help us weather life’s storms and celebrate its sunshine. Here’s something fascinating: research shows that a robust support system does more than just make us feel good. It can actually lower our stress levels, boost our immune system, and even extend our lifespan. Social support isn’t just a nice-to-have, it’s a must-have for our resilience! In my work, I’ve noticed that a thriving support network usually includes three types of amazing individuals: Emotional Cheerleaders: These are your go-to people for a good cry or a hearty laugh. They’re the ones who remind you of your strength when you’ve forgotten. Practical Helpers: These are your real-world problem solvers. When life throws curveballs, they offer tangible solutions, transforming overwhelming situations into manageable tasks. Wisdom-Sharers: These are your personal council of elders. They’ve navigated life’s labyrinth and emerged with hard-won insights and can offer perspective. Recognizing these different types of support can help us build a more balanced and effective support network. So, how can we nurture these vital connections? Here are three strategies I’ve found particularly helpful: Support Mapping: I created a visual map of my support network, identifying different types of support - emotional cheerleaders, practical helpers, and wisdom-sharers. It was eye-opening for me to see where I felt supported and where I still had gaps! Why not try this yourself? You can use this downloadable worksheet to start mapping out your own support network. You might be surprised by what you discover. Strategic Asking: I noticed I often hesitated to ask for help, worried that I would be encroaching. So, I practiced specific ways to reach out, matching my needs with the right supporters. For instance, I initiated regular check-ins with a mentor for professional guidance and set up a “skill-swap” with a neighbor - I offer flower essence consultations in exchange for their graphic design help. Reciprocity Rituals: I set up small, consistent ways to give back to my support network. This helped me feel more balanced in my relationships. One ritual I love is my “Friday Gratitude” practice, where I send a heartfelt message - it might even be via text, to someone who’s supported me that week. What’s one small way you could strengthen a connection in your support network this week? Bach Flower Wisdom Bach flower remedies can be wonderful allies in this process. Water VioletFor instance, Water Violet can help if you’re feeling isolated and finding it difficult to connect with others, and Chicory can assist in nurturing healthy, reciprocal relationships, helping us give and receive support with grace. My challenge for you this week? Reach out to someone in your network - maybe someone you haven’t connected with in a while. A quick call, text, or coffee date can work wonders in nurturing these vital connections. I’d love to hear about your support circle. Who are they and what’s one small gesture of support you’ve received that had a big impact on you?
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